While it’s true that love is the secret ingredient to good sex, there is also power in sex when love is removed. As a woman, I want to use my body to my advantage instead of dragging it around like a vessel that holds all this nervous energy and misplaced love. I want to take what’s mine for a change. I don’t want to be the idiot who waits, the one whose hands reach out for affection only to be denied again and again. I want to be the one to withhold. I want to be the one in control. I want to make a man shiver beneath my body.